… of anything else other than my visa since Pete flew back to the UK on the 12th of May. And before I started writing this post, I opened the calendar on my laptop to count the days. We submitted the visa application on the 9th, and just because, I started counting from the 10th (instead of the day before, where we officially handed out our documents/papers).
What’s been feeling like centuries, turns out to be only 13 days, because it will take from 3 weeks to 3 months of working days for a visa to be process, something that I - well, probably we - forgot.
It’s only been 13 days. Not even 2 weeks. But … it feels like … forever to me.
My mom’s been trying to cheer me up by telling me that it will all be okay and that this is something I chose so I have to chin up and face it. She’s right. This is my choice.
It’s just … really hard to not just break down and be upset at time, sometimes. The 24 hours a day, the 7 days a week … I’m finding it really hard to not hate you guys right now. Sorry.
Last night, we (me and Pete) joked about how awesome it would be if today we found out that my visa is out because today, exactly a month ago, was our wedding.
It’s our first monthniversary (yeah, I just made up that word. Whatever).
But … I guess … that won’t be happening.
I got another 8 (working) days left to wait before I start freaking out, panicking or to just simply think the worst.
We just … want to be together, VFS and the UK Embassy.
Just that.
If you guys could see how difficult it has been for us to be apart from each other …..
To be married and not knowing when we could see and hug each other again.
If only you could see ……….
I am ridiculously annoyed by this whole Lady Gaga thing. Not because I’m a fan but because I feel sorry for all of her fans who got all excited for the concert, waited in line for hours to get the tickets only to know that her management decided to cancel her show due to security reasons. And by “security reason” of course I’m talking about them bunch of religious goats who are sure that the rest of Indonesia’s population is as brain-dead as they are and will copy everything they see or hear, right away, no filters.
A bunch of religious, holier - than - thou, fanatics are telling the officials - the law, basically, of what they should/should not do instead of just letting people choose what they think is right/better for them and leave the whole “sin” thing to each and every individual.
I can’t imagine if it was my favorite band/musician. I’d be heartbroken.
So, Indonesian Little Monsters, despite of our differences in musical taste, I’m deeply sorry for the cancellation. I know one person - who happens to be my best friend - who is really sad about it. And being a concert whore myself, I can relate.
And FPI, one day Marilyn Manson, Rammstein and Dimmu Borgir will probably visit Indonesia and THEN you’ll see what - you call - “satanic” really is. AAAAND, if I’m still in Indonesia, I’mma be at the front row, rubbing it to your ugly looking faces.
There.
Anonymous Asks:
uneeadisti Said:
Hi, Anon. Ah, you no say your name laah … so I still don’t know who you areee~~ 8)) Terimakasih sudah tahan “mengikuti” saya selama ini. Iya, dulu galau *ngaku*. Sekarang gak galau lagi, karena yang bikin galau udah jadi suamik. #EAAAAA #SUOMBONG X)))))
Hadeeeh … no faaaaan. Ay don laik feeeen … Kayak siapa aja gitu kesannya. haha. Plisdeh.
And, girl … if anything, my story is far from one. I don’t have a fairy tale. I didn’t have any glass slippers, Pete didn’t come on a white horse, and I obviously don’t have a fairy god mother. We fought (hard) to be where we are now and we’re still fighting to get where we want to in the future (I WANT MY VISAAAAA! X’))) …). They don’t really fight in fairy tales. They just got it all sorted out, somehow (by fairy god mothers and unacceptable coincidences :p).
So, it could happen to you too, y’know? :)
Thank you for the congrats and for thinking I’m a lovely person. I’m not really. Go ask Pete. XD
Don’t worry, your grammar’s fine.
:)
What is your middle name? Wahyuni.
What are you passionate about? Photography, film, music and … traveling.
Zebra or leopard print? Neither.
Do you have any fears? Of course. And you didn’t ask what they are so, I’m not gonna explain. XD
Top three places to visit? NEW YORK, Rome and Korea.
Where are you from? Medan, North Sumatra, Indonesia. REPRESENT! 8)))
First career you wanted as a child? I wanted to be a lot of things when I was a child. It changes daily. But the one thing I REALLY wanted for quite a long while was to be a flight attendant. :”>
What’s your sign? Leo.
Future names of your children? I’ve always liked the name Catherine for a girl and Benjamin for a boy. LOL. No. SRSLY.
What are you listening to right now? John Mayer’s Shadow Days (GREAT SONG if I may say so myself).
What are your career goals? I’d like to run my own magazine, direct a film and travel the world.
Do you believe in fate/destiny? No. I believe in hard work.
What is your favorite colour? Black. Or other “normal” colors like brown, blue, green. Nothing neon-ish or too bright.
What is your favorite flower? White rose.
What was the first concert/show you attended? An Indonesian rock band called /rif.
Something you are working on right now? This questionnaire (?) and my future online magazine. Well — I’m forcing myself to start working on it. XD
Have you ever had a near-death experience? Yeah. My house was robbed when I was 5 or 6 y.o. Two of my maids (at that time) got stabbed and I managed to run out of the house and screamed for help. I don’t know about you, but for me, that was a near-death experience. Well, at least one that I can share with people. :P
Are you a procrastinator or do you get things done early? Depends on what “things” I need to work on. I’m going to say, I’m balanced. :D
Left or right handed? Right.
TV shows and anime you watch regularly? FRIENDS (yes, even until now. BECAUSE THEY’RE AWESOME), Criminal Minds, Will & Grace (you didn’t say they need to still be aired, right? XD), Lie To Me, 2 Broke Girls, The Big Bang Theory, The Walking Dead (!), Grey’s Anatomy, E.R, House, and tons more I can’t remember right now.
Halloween costume idea for this year? Not sure. Never really “celebrated” Halloween.
What is your relationship status? Married.
Last movie you just watched? The Avengers (!!!).
A song that’s been stuck in your head? Christina Perri’s A Thousand Years. :”>
A book you want to read/have recently read/are reading? Germaine Greer’s The Female Eunuch. And that’s not really “recent’. Reminder: need to start reading something again. -___-“
gianayu Asks:
uneeadisti Said:
Thank you, Giaaaan! Oh you and him will be just fine. I have faith in you guys. :)
Wait for me in Portsmouth yes? Once I got my visa and I’m there, I demand a meet up!
:)
xo
Anooooon huhuhuhuhu *halah*
Ma’acih eaaa, qq … #dibakar XD
Ah, kamu nih. Bisa aja. :”>
Thank you for watching tho’. :)
Um … apa ya … I don’t really know how to answer this.
Emang kita baru sekali ketemu sebelum dia ngelamar, but — what I saw in him wasn’t how many times he came to visit, but how he was when he was here the first time. Gimana dia waktu ketemu nyokap dan abang gue juga sodara-sodara gue yang lain. Gimana dia waktu nemenin bokap gue yang waktu itu ada di rumah sakit. Gimana dia gak cuma bisa ngomong tapi juga ngebuktiin apa yang dia omongin. Dan, kita juga kenalnya udah lama. We talk everyday and talked about everything. Walau udah 2 taun ga komunikasi, tapi waktu kita komunikasi lagi, gue ngerasa dia tetep dia yang dulu *TSAH!*. Bedanya, dia yang sekarang ga lagi gampang dikalahin ama jarak. :)
Trust is earned, hun. Not - and never - given. To earn something, you gotta work for it.
He did - and still is working - for it. Same goes for me.
Kenapa lo ga bisa percaya ama cowo lo …. YAMANAGUETAU?! X))))
I’m sorry, I can’t help you at all with that.
THANK YOU, FRIENDLY STRANGER!
Glad you liked the video.
:D
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAREYOUFUCKINGKIDDINGMEHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Well, anon … It’s good to know one of YOUR life principles, but sorry to break your heart, IT’S NOT ONE OF MINE. XD
I do know that there are some people (women in particular) who’s willing to do that, and I’m guessing your one of them (LOL!), but no — I didn’t marry him for his money.
Because, I was born in a family where we use 100.000 IDR bills to wipe our ass after we poop. So.
Kalo gue mau tinggal di luar negeri mah, gampang. Pake duit sendiri juga bisa. Mau tinggal di luar planet bumi juga masih ada kembalian duit gue mah. XD
So again, no. I didn’t marry him for the money. I marry him because he’s my best friend and I couldn’t picture my future with anyone else but him.
And no, none taken.
PS:
It’s “offense”, not “ofense”.
Kamu nanti susah dapet bule kaya yang sudi nikahin kamu, nak … kalo nulis “offense” aja gak tau. :)
Anonymous Asks:
uneeadisti Said:
Hi Inka!
Haha. Itu karena ngeliat di poto kali, makanya keliatan cantik (pake “banget” pula XD). Aslinya mah kemaren, amit - amit. X)))
Ah, kamu … Pake baju dulu dong makanya biar ga malu. #muatamu XD
Do say hi though. I’m not as scary as *some* people think. I can actually be tame and friendly. LOL.
Oh? Good luck to you then! It takes work, but if you two are going at the same direction and equally committed to it, nothing is impossible. :)
GOOD LUCK AGAIN!
x
PS: Seriously. Do say hi. :)
Not the best video ever made, that’s for sure, but in this … less than 5 minutes video is a story of 3 years. So, gimme some credit, bitches! XD
And, by “Not exactly the wedding they wanted”, I meant that we didn’t really want it to be that huge and … time consuming. :|
But then again, who careeeeees~~
X))
So, yeah.
Hey, sweets!
Haha. Good to know at least one person found this tumblr, somewhat, entertaining. I visited your tumblr before replying this and saw a couple of Before Sunset’s photos. I love, LOVE, LOOOOOVE that film. HIGH FIVE! :D
And yes, I love Miiko. She’s such an annoying sweetheart, isn’t she? HAHA. Dulu sempet baca Yotsuba juga kok. Tapi - kalo ga salah inget - ketinggalan beberapa nomer gitu, males nyari dan jadi ga baca lagi. :|
And thank you for liking my “style” of writing - some people are annoyed by it. LOL. But, you might want to change the word “brave” with “seenak jidat”. More appropriate.
Not looking for fans (never do, actually). I am always looking for new friends. So, be my (new) friend instead. :)
x
Halo, Mbak Iraz (?).
Ebuset. HAHA. Itu yang di blogspot … yang mana ya? Saking banyak dan udah lamanya ngeblog (TSAAAH), suka lupa sendiri. HAHA.
Tapi kalo yang ada (banyak) ngomongin soal AI, itu kayaknya blog 3 taunan yang lalu yak? Sabar banget bacain tulisan saya selama itu? Semoga tidak berefek traumatis ya? Ngahahahaha.
Aduh. Gimana caranya bisa ekspresif?
*garuk-garuk kepala*
Harusnya nanya beginian ama yang udah nerbitin buku gitu. Minimal seleptuit yang tweet-tweetnya udah dijadiin buku deh.
IHIK …
X))
I’m (very) used to honesty and asking myself whether I’m willing to be held responsible on my own words before I say anything. I don’t - and never - consider myself expressive. Ever. I’m just — well, honest.
Kalo suka ya suka, kalo nggak ya nggak. Dan selalu punya alasan kenapa suka/nggak.
BUT, I always feel like I communicate better in writing. Kalo ketemu aslinya, biasanya sih garing dan annoying. LOL.
Maybe it’s because, kalo ketemu orang baru, saya gak langsung ngerasa nyaman, jadi masih lebih milih untuk diem aja. That and the fact that I tend to offend people with most of the things I say, not intentionally though. It’s kinda like a gift. XD
Jadi … kalo ditanya gimana caranya bisa ekspresif, my best answer would be to just be honest in what you think and always have a reason for every opinion. Don’t say things just because you can say them or because other people are saying it and they want you to say it as well. Because that’s how and the best way for you to “express” yourself.
*ecieee jawaban gueeeee HAHA*
XD
Thank you, Anon.
When I’ll be moving to the UK depends on when my visa will be issued. According to them (VFS), it will take from 3 weeks to 3 months. Of the latter is not the one I’m expecting, but — if I have to wait that long, so be it. As long as I got my visa. Hehe.
Anon #2,
you must be new here.
I believe I’ve answered similar questions like this. I never said I know it all.
Whatever I said/wrote here - or in my other blog (s) - are based on the things that I do know.
Like, when I said long distance relationship isn’t necessarily the problem, it’s the one you’re having it with; I speak based on facts and personal experiences.
So, if you can’t differentiate personal opinions (based on personal experiences) and someone holding a lecture and claiming to be an expert in something, there’s no use (for me) to continue this.
IS THAT YOU, BRADLEY COOPER?
I’m sorry I broke your heart.
LOL.
Haha. Iya iya … ntar yaa … Pasti di update kok. :)
Udah gak sibuk jadi pengantin baru lagi. Suaminya udah mudik. Istrinya sendirian.
*gandeng Jude Law*
*kemudian ditalak 3*
X))))
Terima kasiiiiih … Amiiin … Iya, semoga bahagia selalu. :D
I’m glad that it’s inspiring (at least) one person.
HAHA.
x
Again, these are the things I just don’t get sometimes most of the time (this time it’s not just in relationships. So.):
- Clingy couples. And when I say clingy I mean CLING to the fuckin’ Y. The ones that demands the other person to keep him/her updated every 5 minutes. “Babe, I’m eating” - “Babe, I’m drinking a glass of water” - “Babe, I’m picking my nose” - “Babe, I just farted” - “Babe, I’m taking a dump”. I mean, WHY? I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’d like to know what my fiance is doing but — NOT EVERY 5 MINUTES. Lord have mercy to people who is with people like that.
- I noticed how the term,”anak durhaka” or - excuse me if I translated that wrong - “rebellious child” is seriously overused here in Indonesia. That’s like the best “get-away (with anything)” card every parents use to get their kids to do whatever the fuck they want. Even if that isn’t what the child wants or it’s not something that makes or will make them happy. It’s like, it’s better for them not to be happy just as long as they’re not being a “anak durhaka”. How does that even make sense?
- Related to point number 2, when the child says no or has a better argument than the parents, the latter will most likely use the line,”I know what’s best for you”. THAT is also overused. Some things you, parents, does know better but knowing better doesn’t mean it’s the best. And what’s best for YOU doesn’t necessarily means it’s best for your kids. I know I’m not a parent (yet), but - and I’ve told le fiance about this - I will try my best to not say that to my kids. Especially when it’s purely because I needed my ego to be polished. I even gave permission to the future husband to give me a bitch-slap if I ever do that. 8)))
- Famous people. Oh how fame could really turn people to a complete snob. “Oh~~ I’m too famous to talk you” or “I’m too famous to even look at you”. Well guess what, here’s a reality check; FAME DOES NOT LAST. Keep that attitude up and when (your) fame’s light is out, I - personally - will ask you,”SO! How’s being a HAS BEEN feels?” And no, no — I ain’t jealous of your fame, because
- The obsession - yes, obsession - to have a bule boy/girlfriend. Okay. I might need a minute here because I feel like …. BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Okay. Laughing done. A few days ago a, somewhat, similar topic came up when I was talking to a girl from Twitter that I consider friend (no, no names because I don’t think she’ll like it). Reminded me of a
couplelot of people that I know in real life who suddenly came up to me - including the ones that are total strangers but somehow found out about my current dating life (oh scary world we’re living now~) - and started asking me question about HOW to get a bule boyfriend and if I could FIND THEM ONE.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
And when I asked them why, most of them answered,”Because I’ve always wanted to date a bule”. Second best answer was,”Because they’re cuter” (woman, you DO realize that there are A LOT of unattractive bule out there, right? XD). Third best was,”So I can show him off in front of my friends and family”. Errr ……..
I always believe that the right amount of obsession is good for a person; it will give them passion to get what they’re obsessing about, but this particular obsession is … kind of scary. XD
But! Nonetheless! GOOD LUCK WITH THAT! \o/
Sorry I can’t help you because the last time I checked, pimpin’ isn’t something I do … for free. X)))))) - I don’t always expect people to agree with me on everything because, seriously, where’s the fun in that. So if you feel like I should agree with you on everything and then throw me a tantrum when I don’t, don’t wait for me to give you even a single fuck because, baby, I ain’t got any. We clear? Okay.
And just incase you missed part I.
And I wasn’t planning to have a part II but hey, whaddaya know!
8))
